Assalamu alaikum ya A'hibbah'i I pray and hope you all doing great and blessed. Relationship is a very sensitive commitment that most both genders go into with a negative mindset which in turn they will come back to this platform to complain " this guys did that" or "that girl did this" which negatively catalyzes Division among us and allowing more negativity into our thoughts. however, it is noteworthy to realize that whoever you want to date or u are dating is it crucial to go into a relationship with a 100% positive mindset unless you don't believe or you are not sincere in daily your prayers to Allah SWT. whoever you want to date or are dating today did not grow of in the same house you did, while you like pounded yam and they like semo, and they have different upbringing from you. therefore, it is very important to look at how compatible both of you are. there is a phase that says " two good people cannot live in the same roof if they are n or compatible to each other" (@jattox et ul.) so not everyone can love a person for the sake of Allah but we can accept each other's nature. When you are committed to a relationship you should have a burning desire to upgrade that person to becoming a better person than they were before dating you... such things includes but not limited to; teach/ reminding them on religion, enhancing or persuading them to learn a commercial skill/handwork, encouraging at school to performance better, always saying good things about them e.g. you did well 👍 , you are a good person 😊, I'm proud of you 🤗, you are the best 💪... not just I love you like most people do in a relationship. Finally, we should not be condemning each others as we are both Allah's creations. there is a Hadith that Messager of Allah pbum said man who insulted him Ram 🐏 should give it away or let is go... I can't remember the complete Hadith (someone should correct me please). talkless of condemning a gender. so my brothers and sister if you want good things then you have to be good yourself not because of people around you but for the sake of Allah because we don't know when we will take our last breath in duniya. to me, everyone in this platform is a good person may Almighty Allah with HIS infinite mercy guide us and may we all meet in Aljannatul Firdausi and start a platform named: "arewaup for Aljannah people" 😃 for you and me... with love ❤️ and kind regards have a blessed days ahead.