why do guys always ask ladies if you are a virgin ?
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Anonymous Apr 14, 08:43 AM

why do guys always ask ladies if you are a virgin ? 1

Assalam alaikum Actually I had to bring this topic to the table to be honest it's pieces me of you start dating a guy and the question he asks is are you a virgin what are your intentions to answer this question is embarrassing honest And then what your business about someone passed you are but why about my passed if you know about it what will you use it for Actually for some people you are bringing up her horrible passed I needed to ask why do guys ask such questions
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Abubakar Dalhatu Sulaiman Apr 14, 08:58 AM
because ba wanda yakeson wacce ba virgin honestly duk namijin da ya aure ki be sameki virgin ba to ko da yayi dauriyan cigaba da rayuwa da ke to tabbas da bakin cikin haka a ransa zaku kare zama da shi. virgin shi ne mutuncin ya mace wallahi
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Abdourl 12 Apr 14, 09:07 AM
Well, technically a virgin seems as the most pious woman who worked hard to guard her chastity and whom no one can be anxious of her being in loyal... So there are so many reasons why some guys used to ask such kind of questions and I think there's nothing wrong about it if you guys intended to be with each other. But here's the issue, there's a lot of misconception about virginity and it's like only women are expected to be virgin, nobody cares about a man being virgin or not, and so many women lost their virginity through horrible ways that caused them a lot of trauma, some are raped, some are deceived by someone they love deeply, some happened to be a victim of fornication and later regret it and repent... Whatever the case might be, I think women that are raped should be honest and let the guy know first, I know it's hard but the earlier the better. Even if you had a bad experience with life you should let your guy know that you once had this kind of lifestyle before the third parties started to intervene. However, there are so many guys that are not virgin, you guys should know that you can't skip your nemesis, you better repent and stop pressuring women about virginity, if anyone is to take virginity test ah swear many men can't get married. Kuma who told our people that every woman that lost her virginity yar iska ce? There are so many traumatic events that some victims doesn't want to remember. Please, if you're not there to help em heal stop pressuring them for being a virgin. Allah ya sa mu dace ya hadamu da abokan zama nagari
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Anonymous Apr 14, 11:05 AM

actually this was the point I wanted guys to understand will they also like it when we women ask them about there virginity
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Anonymous Apr 14, 11:15 AM

cuz honestly it's hurt to ask someone about her passed maybe she has moved on and you are remaining her about it and then Allah ba azalimin bawan shi ba do you think you will f***k with a girl and you will get married to a sealed one actually what you to someone is what you get so let bygones be bygones
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Abu-Bakr Apr 14, 02:32 PM
I think the girls should start asking the guys this same question
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Anon 123 Apr 14, 06:54 PM
To me I think what leads to such Questions is the type of conversation you allow him to have with you ,the way you dress and your interaction with other males .You earn respect for yourself.
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Anonymous Apr 14, 07:15 PM

even though I believe no body can question me like that but some guys like ask questions that are out of the conversation. I will agree there are people that flirt but it doesn't mean that's person can ask such questions
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Hyghdqr Apr 15, 12:38 AM
asking such questions is very important for a man that’s willing to marry you, not a boyfriend who’s willing to marry you and for me I didn’t see any problem about asking, because if you lied for him and he found out kinga he can move on, but the real problem is bincike in Muslim is very important when both genders want to get married and the major problem shine yanxu ba’a bincike idan akazo maganar aure , people will be just saying 4get his/her past Gaskiya akwai gyara Amma asking are you a virgin isn’t a big deal
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IntrovertedAnonymous Apr 15, 03:47 AM

wannan ba magana bane ɗan uwa, ba magana bane sam sam. In kuma fyaɗe aka yi mata fa? In kuma ta tûba ha Allaah da zuciya ɗaya fa har ta ma fika imani fa? In kuma Allaah Ya halicce ta haka fa?
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Anonymous #3 Apr 15, 10:49 AM
In my opinion, the biggest reason why guys asked about women's virginity is because if the guy is a virgin, then he also want to marry a virgin. He is inexperienced and want to marry an inexperienced virgin also. I've seen a lady's comment on Instagram that, "if you are a blank canvas waiting to experience intimacy for the first time, you should go for someone like you. So you can experience, learn, and adjust together" And what she said next, I think is another main reason a virgin man seek for a virgin woman... she said, "going for someone (nonvirgin) will compare you to her previous sexual partner/s is highly risky" like she said too, the guy will have self doubt like "what if you are not enough?, what if she finds you lacking experience?," I think it's a valid reason for a virgin man that feared Allah and saved his virginity for marriage to ask a girl if she's a virgin. Anybody can do zina, but if I feared Allah and saved myself, what's wrong with me seeking to marry the woman? Note: 1) I'm not refering to someone that was raped 2) You might ask what if she has repented, well... that's great, that between her and Allah (not the guy's obligation to marry her) 3) And no it's not "kaddara" if you planned or follow a guy to a secluded place and had sex with consent. Wallahu a'alam 😊
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Zee Abdul Apr 15, 12:08 PM
I think this poster is not a virgin or she has been asked this question before, either of the two must be true. I think it matters but not appropriate to ask, because there is alot of sexual immorality these days and some people whom have restrained from temptations will like to have someone chaste. its a choice. There is an exception for rape victims in my own opinion because not everyone losses his virginity willingly.
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Anonymous #1 Apr 15, 01:43 PM
No one wants to settle with a rotten tomatoes
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Anonymous Apr 15, 10:20 PM

ummmm I don't think I am one maybe I am way to young
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Zee Abdul Apr 16, 10:50 AM

Don't mind people like this, they are shallow minded and don't be surprised they are not virgins but because they are Men they won't see themselves as rotten tomatoes
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Abu-Bakr Apr 17, 03:29 AM

if dem go follow virginity many guys will nt marry
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Anonymous #4 Apr 17, 10:04 AM
Iskanci ne kawai
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Anonymous Apr 17, 05:41 PM

you that are saying no one wants to settle down with a rotten tomatoes you are fresh koh
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Anonymous Apr 17, 05:47 PM

even though I am not if it's true my sister there is a saying ever tell the person you are marrying your wrong deeds it's cuz like you are proud of what you did I the passed so Allah will not forgive saying your passed wrong deeds. so it's not good to say it
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