My parents are very strict and its affecting me terribly
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Anonymous Dec 13, 12:33 PM

My parents are very strict and its affecting me terribly 0

I read the post about the girl who posted about strict parents. I can relate to her. This is the first time I've ever posted about this and I can't post it without crying. I lost my mum when I was really young and since then my dad stopped us ( my siblings and I ) from going anywhere besides school. He's very wealthy but believes that the only thing his children need to have is food to eat and a bed to sleep. Is it possible that a girl won't have needs like soap to bathe or just a normal body cream, deodorant? Haba. We are also not allowed to go out and have friends over. Sometimes it sounds unreal that this is my life, I've lost almost all my friends because how do I explain it to them that I can't go out at my age? Even to the gate of the house. They also don't invite me anywhere cos they feel I won't come. I know it's his money not ours but we the children never asked to be born in the first place so why treat us badly? All the cleaners, maids and gateman have been fired and we now do their jobs. I don't even mind doing it, it's just the insult that comes with it. We are lazy and ungrateful. I don't know how I wake up every day, how am I still living. I've contemplated suicide many times but I feel it's too selfish of me to leave my siblings behind. I definitely can't keep a relationship because I won't be able to see whoever I'm dating. My step mother even had the audacity to ask me to bring a man home for marriage. From where pls? When I don't go out or nothing, I'm extremely beautiful, light skinned and I speak very well so if anyone even sees me, they will never know that I'm going through all of this. I'm optimistic that one day, my life will change. I just wanted to share my feelings with everyone.
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Mimiiy Dec 13, 12:58 PM
innalillahi wainna ilaihirrajiun!๐Ÿฅบ What a life,Allah ya jiqan mamanki da rahamah ya gafarta mata ya ganar da mahaefin ku gsky this is unjustice kuna masa addua may be there ia something fishy here how could a father do this to his children may Allah see you through Allah ya kawo miki mafita, ki dinga online business hka ko ki sami mahaifin naki shi kadai ki gya masa kuna bukatan kudi you really need money๐Ÿฅบ Allah ya kawo miki mafita. Ameen
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Bafferh Dec 13, 01:04 PM
Eyya... Sorry! I feel your pain. May Allah make it easy for you. Allah ya kawo miji nagari mai albarka.
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Anonymous Dec 13, 01:20 PM

Ameen Ameen. Hmmmn, Its not as easy as you think. I've tried talking to him about a getting a job but it ended badly for me, very badly. Thanks so much for the advice.
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Sgabdo Dec 13, 01:31 PM
Subhannallah. indeed Your Test Is Big So Will Your Reward In sha Allah. It Will Soon Turn Out To be Better for you In Sha Allah. Sorry May Allah make its Easy For you.
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Trustee Dec 13, 01:48 PM
Allah ya kyauta
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Abuash Dec 13, 02:03 PM
Allah sarki parents are all what we have and its very good for us to obey them except when it comes to disobeying god I really gat you sister it's so much pain to come true all this buh I pray may Almighty Allah heal you and give you a way out of this๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™. An advise to you my sister pls always pray Insha Allah everything is gonna be alright
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Asmaa05 Dec 13, 02:07 PM
innalillahi wainna ilaihirrajiun!๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿฅบ What a life,Allah ya jiqan mama da rahamah ya gafarta mata ya yalwata qabarinta Kuma ya muku albarka...ya ganar da mahaifinku gsky ...kuringa masa addua Allah ya kawo maku mafita. Ameen...kiyita tashi cikin dare kina kaiwa Allah kukan ki..ki yawaita istigfari da salatin annabi komai muke nema zamu samu inshaAllah...sannan ki duba suratul tauba: verse 59: daga ุญุณุจู†ุงุงู„ู„ู‡ ุณูŠูˆุชูŠู†ุงุงู„ู„ู‡....har zuwa qarshen ayar kiyita karanta ta ba adadi inshaAllah zaki samu sauqi da biyan buqata..Allah ya sa mu dace
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Nafeesaher Dec 13, 02:22 PM
Allah sarki dear, May Almighty Allah ease your affairs.
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Asmaa05 Dec 13, 02:56 PM

๐Ÿฅฐ Dm
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Anonymous Dec 13, 02:56 PM

Amin..Thank you
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Anonymous Dec 13, 02:57 PM

Ameen...Thank you sis
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Saudat abbas Dec 13, 03:00 PM
keep on praying sis wlh komai wuya akwai dadi kar sama ranki wannan abun baxe wuce bah no it just the matter of time insha'allah xamucigaba da saki a addu'u but what about your mum's relatives basa nan ne ko suma sun hkr da halin shine kiyawai ta karatun alqur'ani da sallan dare kirike azkhar sosai ๐Ÿ˜Š Allah y taimake mu sis but wlh I feel ur pain
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Anonymous Dec 13, 03:01 PM

okay
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Anonymous Dec 13, 03:10 PM

Thank you Sis, I will. We're not allowed to keep in touch with them so I don't even have their phone numbers and since my mum died, they never made any effort to check up on us either.
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Anonymous Dec 13, 03:14 PM

I can't find the option to send you Dm Sis
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Asmaa05 Dec 13, 03:15 PM

ohh maybe through My Instagram handle...asma_uthy
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Saudat abbas Dec 13, 03:34 PM

but bakisan sunan daxaki iya samun siblings din mum dinki a fb koh IG bah please kiyi trying idan basu nemeki bah kinemesu sis kinji tunda kinada waya
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Anonymous Dec 13, 03:57 PM

I honestly don't remember much about them cos I was really young when it happened but they are older people so I'm not sure they are on FB or IG. I actually believe that if they want to find us they can but they don't want to reach out to us.
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Anonymous #1 Dec 13, 05:49 PM
ya Allah, this is so heartbreaking sister and so sad to hear how someone is going through alot and u think you can help, but no way expect to pray for you May Almighty Allah bring an end to your suffering and hard life that u are into Allah ya kawo miki mapita cikin gaggawa Allah ya rupa asiri Allah y kara miki juriya da hakuri
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Ladyytima Dec 13, 05:56 PM
Have you tried talking to your father about this? I know it's a longshot but letting him know that you want freedom and implementing it in his mind slowly will make him less surprised when it actually happens. I know where you're coming from because I've had my share when it comes to strict parenting. Also if possible try to find a way to make your own money. Sometimes our parents don't respect our rights because they pay for our upbringing. Having some money of your own may make him feel threatened as the man of the house, but I think eventually he'll start to respect your gradual independency.โ€ฆ. I have a lot to say (feel free to dm me ) don't lose hope โฃ๏ธ
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Anonymous Dec 13, 06:18 PM

yes you can ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š thank you
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Saudat abbas Dec 13, 06:21 PM

Dm through my IG saudat_traditional_henna
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Anonymous Dec 13, 06:21 PM

I already tried talking to him but it ended up with me being treated worse than I already was. No one can talk to him. Thank you
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