I come across several posts that talk about women being pressured by society or family to get married and how that is causing many unhealthy relationships and quick marriages.
Men also get this pressure, I am a Male of 28yrs and earning Good income but i am just not ready for Marriages as I don't know how it will really benefit me, Our society is scary these days mutane abun tsoro ne wallahi. but I get bugged alot by People, "Wai kai yaushe zakayi aure", "Kana zaman kadaici a Abuja babu iyali, be kamata ba", "Har yanzu bakayi aure ba, meyasa?" all sorts of things dai haka, I use to overlook but abin ya fara yawa. I am living in a 2 bedroom apartment and i am comfortable and mostly eat outside or cook sometimes, i am mostly busy. so i don't know why people are concerned about me marrying. haka last week wata aunt dina ta dinga min lecture akan aure, i left her house in wonders. I don't mind to talk about it casually but when it gets serious its really uncomfortable for me.
I think we share many things together.
I’m 28 years too, unmarried, earning very high and living in Abuja.
My own is I come from a struggling family that really helped me to get where I’m today. I have lots of responsibilities, though I’m able to shoulder them all and still live comfortably, from taking care of my two families, paying school fees and taking care of 6 people all In tertiary institutions, building house for my mom and grandma and helping close relatives etc. I don’t want to get married now until I do enough to build my family to stability, because I know that when I eventually marry, I’ll have more responsibilities and more families to look after.
My family and immediate understand this very well so I don’t get any pressure from them, but you see friends, and strangers who barely know about your struggles are always after my matter, talmabout, “when are you getting married?”, “you have everything nau”, “see your mates and their children”, “People earning 1/10 of what you are earning are already married, what are you waiting for?” and this is so irritating tbh
Gaskiya kam mutane abun tsoro ne, just pray over it and the almighty will take control.
Mutane basu gane komai lokaci ne
Komai lokacine, idan yazo zakayi ko kanaso ko bakaso.
Yes, komai lokaci but i dont agree with the part of "ko kana so ko baka so". idan bana so meyasa zan je inyi? please lets understand self responsibilty, you can't control your destiny but you can control your decisions
Yes, You can actually relate.
people be telling you what to do as if you don't know what you are doing or your plans are bad.
i believe its best you have a plan and stick to it based on whats in your best interest because those people telling you to get married won't be there to support you or share the problem if anything arises from the same thing they advices you to do. last last se dai a ce "ai haka Allah ya kaddara. Arzikin mutum a rubuce hake and all sorts of phrases to console you 😂
Wish you all the best Bro.
Abin yana bani haushi ayita cewa kaki Aure suna mantawa Allah ne ke tsara ma kowa Rayuwar shi
Allah yahadamu da abokan zama na kirki
Hausawa sukace abinda babba yahango yaro koda zai hau dutsen dala bazai hango ba,so just have a second thinking to ur situation a well grown up and healthy adult who is opportuned to have a source of income that he will be able to start a family with is residing somewhere far from his parents house,do you think ur parents won't get disturbed by that koda sunsan bazaka yi something nasty ba??pls put urself in there shoes for once and think dole zasufi samun natsuwa idan kanada aure consider dem too not only urself saboda komai yana iya faruwa at any tym we're not the ones controlling our hearts although u know urself but anything can change we're all humans not cartoon we all have feelings let's not be selfish to ourselves at times and do the right thing although aure lokaci ne idan baizo ba bazaka tabayi ba but we have to also make a move karmu bari social media and the type of toxic society we find ourselves into today make us forget our religion and tradition, aure abune mai daraja mai qima sosai a musulunci and we all know that karmu dinga biyewa son zuciya pls just pray for the best,idan har mutum yanada lfy,hankali da wadata to mai zai jira kuma ai kawai sai dakko amarya🥳May Allah guide us to the right path, Ameen.
this is similar to what people usually tell me, as i said, i don't know how it will benefit me presently maybe in the future but for now, I have many other priorities.
My family are close by the way, there is no worry in that aspect.
As a Muslim, marriage make you complete and as such is should a thing of concern to you. The fear of getting into it is not an excuse or an amnesty for you. It's better now than later. Abun Sai Da Adua walahi.. Allah ya bada dama for you get a good partner..
people don't just keep they mouth out of people business ne
family and society pressure us about marriage and they keep forgetting the responsibilities that comes with it may Almighty Allah make it easy for us.(Ameen) for the guys it always when you start working that’s when marriage lectures will be coming from every corner😂😅 and for us the ladies I guess when you’re 20 and above or when two to three of your friends get married and you’re still single 😂that’s when you’ll start receiving lectures.
Same here bro,
Allah Yayi mana jagora
Ameen ya rabb
mace ne ba namiji bah 😹
Oh I thought naamiji ne😂
Sorry
It's fine 😊
Thank you so much for your understanding 🙏😊
Thanks 😊 🙏
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