Assalamu alaikum ... I have a question and I hope someone has an answer... I have a lady I want to marry, she's nice but she's easily gets angry while I'm the calm one...
the issue here is that when we have little misunderstanding, she will stop talking to me sai na lallabeta for 1 to 2 weeks...
she always gets me wrong and think I'm being negative even when am joking...
I spend on so much and provide her needs and she sells perfume and she never gave me one as a gift just like other couples do.
the first day I saw you was the first day I ask permission from her parents.
if I distance myself from her it becomes an issue and if I care too much is it becomes an issues.
I'm alhamdulillah I'm really caring type of man I'm 35 and mum have really taught us how to take care of a lady.
but Gaskiya I'm not happy in the relationship Ko kadan... when I like her status and make good comments she will hardly respond and even if she sees my status I'm in site under hot sun she won't like talkless of making an encouraging comments...
to my own conclusion, is it that Nigerian ladies underrate a man who is too carting to them? by the way I was not born not born and brought up in this country.
kindly use your kind words to advise me.
Jazakallahu Khair as you do.
May Allah makes it easy for you, but why not try talking to her in a calm and cool manner expressly telling her how you feel what she's not doing right, what you expects from her,just talk, as they say communication is the key if she still didn't change then you should weigh whether the relationship is healthy for you, May Allah make our spouse the coolness of our eyes, till jannah
I don't think she'll be a good partner for you
my advice look for another
she’s not good leave her
come meet me I dey calm like omoooo ko unguwar mu sun shaida infact nice nk wa pantami jan Baki a tafsir Abeg no tell any1
she just doesn't care maybe she's with you for just getting married sake some of our hausa sisters mentality "I don't like him but I just stay so that bazanyi kwante ba" Allah ya kawo maka mafita
bro these gender most of them don't appreciate a kindhearted man, man that always show love, care etc
you'll liked and comment on her story but she can't do the same even though our deserve a mind words sbd a site kk aiki.
bro am 28 but kusan almost Duk abinda kk wa beb dinka haka nke Kuma bana samun kulawa kamar ydd ake ma.
but last last I Don blocked her 4 dyz ago
I did... she can't communicate... when ever I try Wallahi it only lead to issues... she just makes things difficult Wallahi. Ameen ya rabbi thanks bro
thanks your opinion bro.
thanks for your your opinion 😊
Ameen what you said could be true 🤔
I understand where u re coming from. as for me it’s the opposite🙂 I had loved and care for him just as u said because am the kind of person that cherish, love and appreciate her man but i guess he didn’t like that or maybe I don’t even know wat to say. He always make me feel like am the guilty one, emotional blackmail, gaslighting and all yet he will say he loves me when he makes me feel like am not even there. Even if he is the one in wrong i will be the one apologizing, yet i didnt give up but you know as they say even the strongest people get tired as some point.
so i decided to break the relationship and Alhamdulillah am glad i did cause it wasn’t worth my peace. That was long ago.
If you need a friend to talk to on how to handle the matter then u re welcome
Gaskiya its extremely annoying kuma they simply don't care... I think I will do the same.
Don't be the man that you are not, instead the a woman that deserve all the love and someone that will appreciate you. we women aren't the same. if someone doesn't appreciate your love, another one will I believe so.
Anyway like I said from my message above if you need a friend to talk to then u re welcome
uhum nayi kokarinbta fahimta but Ina. Kuma Basu dauka double dating a komai ba
sister not now gsk. nifa gnj nke Duk kusan hk kk
allow him to clear his head for sometimes
No you don't understand
I'm not asking him to date me or anything. And kuma not all girls are the same, dont ruined his mind into thinking that all girls are the same. what if he meets someone that is not like that and kuma ya fara treating din ta the way he was treated, that will be injustice.
me telling him to be my friend doesn't mean am interested in him. I feel a sense of connection because of his story, we can get along well with him. Having someone to talk to can clear a lot of things. Idan haka ne mu ma sai mu ce all men are the same kenan and it's not like that likewise women too. Don't judge please without knowing someone.
I offer him friendship let him talk
am sorry 😔 you got me wrong
I know you wanna him to feel better.
my bad
my bad
no offense don't worry😊
thank you for understanding. Wen he sees my message he will respond
😂
I really feel what you’re saying, and honestly you sound like a very caring man who tries his best in this relationship. But from what you’ve shared, you’re not really happy or getting the same energy back. Marriage isn’t just about loving someone, it’s also about peace, support, and understanding.
I don’t think it’s about Nigerian ladies underrating caring men..it’s more about whether this particular woman values you and matches your energy. If her silence and lack of encouragement hurt you now, it may become harder after marriage.
Please talk to her openly about how you feel, and if nothing changes, don’t be afraid to ask yourself if she’s really the right person for you. You deserve someone who will also care for you the way you care for them.
It might be hard to end things with her as you’ve said you’ve seek permission from her parents, just pray for the best between you guys and Allah will take care of everything for you.
this is really not nice. ask yourself this questions...is this how you want your home to be ? if not then the better earlier the better, it's better to marry late than get married to the wrong partner.
yh that's right!
he's 35 now, he should make a right decision
yh sure
in short, I have same issue almost everything he mentioned. las las I just blocked her and distance myself from her
this guys want us to be like puppies!!
you'll keep requesting kana so kazo hira wurin yarinya but she keeps turning down your request, spend months without meeting. she don't care to give you time virtually.
zaka tura message a Whatsapp Amma sai after 10 minutes za'ayi reply shi baya wuce 3 words😂😂😂 imagine fh girl wey u senior am if not born am
if you complain zata fara ka cika complain bla bla bla, idan Kuma kaja baya ka daina kulawa bbu chat bbu kira Shima ace kasa kaza maganar hira Dama bbu
so I just blocked her and if she doesn't care and reach out to me and confess about her rudeness then am done with her. am sure she gonna get what she want.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT MAKES ME DO BE FUCKING CARE ABOUT THIS GIRL. LAST TIME WE MET IS LAST YEAR OCTOBER 😂😂
Ayyah... why do caring people always have issues in a relationship... the problem I'm having is that I can't stop being caring because it's my nature and I know I'm being rewarded for it... sure it will be nice to talk with someone who have the same experience 😊
seriously I tried my best talking with her... she will give a silly excuses... one day she went out and when I called her she said she can't talk she's out... I said ok kindly call me when you are back... after Magrib I texted her and called she she did not respond.... yet she was posting on her status at the same time... then she called me around 12am to tell me her battery is down so good night. it really hurts because she did that several times. when I told her about it, guess what she said??? she said am disturbing her life... I said ok I will give her some space, just for her to say so that's what I want all this while Ko???? I was like what kind of a person are you?? 🤦🏼♂️
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