part 6 : heart break
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Anonymous Mar 29, 08:31 PM

part 6 : heart break 0

I decided let me ask what's happening, if something is wrong so that we can fix it! I explained what I was feeling his vibe towards me , like am forcing things, is there someone new or old? am his friend he can talk to me, I will understand and accept whatever it is our friendship is important for me! hmmm he just flared up he felt I am going to break his heart is better we stop seeing each other 😭😭, and just went offline for a week, texted call no response and that is the beginning of the end, this is 2years now, am still in love with him, I have been to therapy, I prayed, almost started drugs to numb my feelings (gradually it's becoming easier Kun San irin rubutun Nan da ake wa babies Idan zaa yaye su! shi akayi ta Yi min) I was becoming suicidal. unstable, since he gaslight me and ghosted me I have only talked to him on his birthday mostly chat, I realized I cannot force him to love me or even be friends with me no matter how I tried, he claimed he reconciled with his ex, that's y he couldn't be friends with me. I continue to pray with time am getting better though still so much in love with him, the worst part, I can't be in relationship with another person 💔 believe me this kind of love with the right person is the best thing that could happen to u, what are u r experiences with 💕
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Tijjani Muhammad Mar 29, 08:51 PM
Ayyah, sorry—I feel your pain. From the beginning, you were so confident in yourself, never doubting your choices. You stood by your decisions, even when your parents disagreed. You mistook your first partner for the one you’d spend your life with, despite your parents’ warnings. I wish you hadn’t gone against them you might have avoided this heartbreak. But remember, we women aren’t above mistakes. we always living learning lessons everyday. Second, don’t blame yourself for what happen with the second guy. I see how deeply you cared for him. But in life, some people are only meant to pass through, while others come to teach us lessons. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Be the strong woman you are. I know letting go isn’t easy, but acceptance is the first step. To ease the pain, keep praying, and avoid anything that reminds you of him replace those thoughts with something new. Most importantly, don’t give up on love. Stay open. The right partner is still coming.
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Tijjani Muhammad Mar 29, 09:03 PM

Indeed, this is your last chapter—yet you’re still writing it as if his love will never fade. You’re trapped in a cycle, convincing yourself this pain is permanent, even as you stand on the brink of repeating the same mistakes. But I swear, love can fade.Emotions change, wounds heal, and clarity returns, but only if you allow it. You must choose to refresh your mind, take new steps, and break free. If you don’t give yourself that chance, you’ll keep circling the same pain forever. Think of it like losing someone we cherish—a parent, a friend, or a love we thought would last. At first, the grief feels unbearable. But with time, the sharpness of loss softens. We start remembering only the beauty, not the ache. And those memories? They don’t chain us to the past; they teach us how to love again, differently. The same will happen here. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting—it means making space for what’s ahead. Stop romanticizing the past. Pray for strength, distract your heart with purpose, and trust this: the right love won’t demand your suffering. It will feel like peace, not a prison. So breathe. This isn’t the end. It’s just the turning point.
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Muhammad Musa Muhammad Mar 29, 09:32 PM
inalillahi waa inaa'ilaihir raa ji'un 🥲 may Allah subhanahu waata'ala make it easy for you
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Anonymous Mar 30, 06:56 AM

Amin ya rabbil alamin, appreciate all kind words,advise and prayers
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Anonymous #1 Mar 30, 02:24 PM
Ask yourself realistically what is it you want in this life, what is it you want from a partner? What are the qualities that are most important for you, what are those you can do without, then carefully and quickly screen anyone you meet, without wasting much time. I know that people with less friends have more tendency of developing very close attachments Alhamdulillah you are successful in your career, but I'd also advise that you work more on your relationship with Allah converse with him, talk to him, and cry to him....Read more Islamic books and listen to lectures by scholars like Sulaiman Moola, If you're Hausa, like Sheikh Jafar......you cannot continue doing the same thing and expect a different result, give something else a chance and try new things, get yourself busy with all these and if you eventually meet someone: You should choose to be with them only because of their "Character and Religion" for he who has good characters and is religious will stop at nothing to do right to you and love will eventually come.
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Muhammad Musa Muhammad Apr 1, 06:31 AM

stay safe bro u no give my sallah meat. make una waver am 4 me 😄
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Muhammed Rabiu Apr 8, 08:10 PM

similar thing happened with me. This girl first proposed her love to me and I accept her we continue it was amazing at first. we spent two years in extreme love and caring for each other. probably that is the best two years of my life. we can't pass a day without talking to each other. we plan our life numbers of kids to give birth to and other important things you couldn't imagine. our love was amazing everyone around our community knows we are together like everyone is aware. we got addicted to each other. and she was my first love. all of a sudden her behavior towards me start changing. she start ignoring me she start snubbing me like a lots of strange attitude i talk to her if there is any issue let her tell me lets resolve it she said no I don't know that im about to experience breakfast. it was in the night when we are chatting she said she got someone better than me she loves him I try begging her not to leave me but all In vain. I couldn't sleep that night I couldn't eat properly for a month I continue praying and asking others to pray for me it's been 3 years from the day we break up and I can't still stop loving her Its been 3 years and I still love her and I'm still single through out though I'm searching but it's hard
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Bigbash234 Apr 11, 07:46 AM
You been through a lot, i have a question for you, what are your love languages?
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Anonymous Apr 18, 06:03 PM

base is friendship, 2years ago I will write a book on what I want but now, I don't know! I love this person without reason
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Anonymous Apr 18, 06:06 PM

some people can be cruel, I feel your pain, believe me, we are going to be ok in Sha Allah. with prayers everything is possible I believe God have better things for u in stock! what ppl don't know is whatever you do good or bad is bound to find u. God is kind
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Bigbash234 Apr 19, 07:17 AM

We have five love languages, Act of service Quality time Words Of Affirmation Gift giving Physical touch When you understand your love language and understand your potential partner, you will realize that some feelings are base on lust
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