i have an important choice to make, please help.
Anonymous Dec 10, 09:26 PM

i have an important choice to make, please help. 0

I want to get your opinions to help with my decision, i'm 24 yrs, na gama university tun last year akwai wani wanda yake so ya aure ni, i'm ok with him but the problem is ni yanzu ba aure bane a gaba na i want to proceed with my studies and have a masters and PhD because my dad has agreed to sponsor me abroad. shine a gida ake ce wa wai zan iya yin auren se in tafi if na dawo hutu mu dinga haduwa da mijin ko kuma shi sometimes ya kai min ziyara kuma he agreed. he is ready to do anything to have me. amma ni naga wannan kamar wahala ne. why not idan na gama komai in dawo (4 years max) se ayi auren. its left for me to decide. i want to get your opinions and see things from others perspective that can help in my final decision. Thanks


Islaha Jan 20, 02:15 AM
Just marry him nd continue your studies. Tunda yace zai aureki kuma ya barki ki chigaba ai an gama kawai kiyi auren naki sai ki cigaba da karatu. Sbd there is no guarantee that he will wait for u again for another 4 yrs koh ba hak ba
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Ummy Hafsat Dec 24, 08:19 PM
Aslm sister, Gaskiya my own Advice din shine kiyi aurenki inyaso kicigaba da karatunki tunda ya yarda da hakan Cox time waits for no one Nd u are 24 u are not getting younger u are getting older duk dadai aure nufin Allah ne but tunda harkinsamu me sanki kuma kin yaba da halinsa just go Nd settle down aure bazai hanaki karatu ba insha Allah.. u can still put it in ur prayers Allah yamiki zabi mafi Alkhairi 🙏🙏
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Gagolyn Dec 23, 09:16 PM
The Noble Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) has said: "Virgin girls are like fruits on trees. If not plucked in time, the sun will rot them and the wind will disperse them. When girls reach maturity and their sexual instincts arise, like that of women, their only remedy is marriage. If they aren't married, they are prone to moral corruption. It is because they are human beings and human beings are prone to making mistakes." There is a very subtle message in this saying of the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him). Just as there is proper timing for plucking fruits, there is a proper age for marriage, for every girl. A girl who cannot understand and shoulder the responsibility of married-life is like a raw fruit that needs to remain on the tree (i.e. her father's home) until it ripens and sweetens. On the other hand if a girl loses the freshness of youth while yet unmarried, then she is like an over-ripe fruit that would further wither away, as the time passes. Advisingly, it is better for you to get married since you have the chance. Lucky you, he agreed to your expedient option.
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Hatty Dec 21, 09:43 PM
Salam Alaykum. I think it depends on whether you are ready to let this person go because i doubt he will wait for the next 5 years just for you to comeback. even if he said he will, only time will tell. its easy to talk now. If you are alright with letting this person marry someone else and know that you will have to find somebody anew as good people are becoming more and more rare every single day. If you are very sure of him as your life partner, i say marry him and then you will figure it out together but remember to talk to him about having children as they will put a heavy strain on your studies and marriage.I think you can postpone having children until you are finished with you studies if you are getting married. i wish you the best.
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Mariah Dec 11, 08:16 PM
Sis, follow your heart. If you feel you're not ready then go ahead with your studies. You have your father's support. Aure lokaci ne
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Musabulkyr Dec 11, 09:33 AM
Slm, i think it’s better kiyi auren sannan ki tafi, coz mazan yanzu ba tabbas, one minute you think he’s all yours and the next will be ya fasa auren coz yaga wata kuma bazai iya jiranki bah
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