Anonymous
May 12, 04:39 PM
Decision between 2 potential spouses, pls i need good advice
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Let me start from the beggining, i met this Men(1)at the Airport in Nigeria (December 2021) when i was coming for Holidays, my mum comnected me to him b4 i came to Nigeria so he would pick me up (it was these covid time) so he picked me up did everything at the airport for me. Everytime I visit that airport I would call me he would do everything for me.
As time Flys by it was time for me to go back and leave Nigeria. So I was at the Airport met him he does everything for me. he asked my cousin if I was married bcoz he never saw a Hausa Lady that nice as me even though I never lived in Nigeria was born and grown up abroad. that's there the story began. Ina dawo wa ya fara yi min text. she changed the story and asked me many questions about my life that his friend wants to marry me, no relationship just marriage and very fast. he is a very nice and religious person only bcoz of his Faith I have that much feelings for him. he has 2 wives and has 10 children. and is even though not that old only 40yrs.
the problem is financial,I don't think he can marry somebody like me, I never had financial problems in my life, my father was a very popular Journalist worldwide and my life is just different. I never had a bf who sent me small money 10k or 20k so it was very difficult bcoz he tells me I have to change my life when I will marry him, he can't afford my expensive life. he promised to pay me 2 times a year going abroad & umrah. money is a very big issue for him, I never had those problems.i think he will change when we get married.
pls I need advice for that.
okay then I met 2022 January in my auntys house a very popular political rich person, I never heard about him bcoz I don't live in Nigeria. he wanted my abroad number I have gave him then he gave me like 1k$ na sallama first day I saw him. my aunty told him everything about my family and my life then he was so into me. after 2 weeks he searched for my nigerian number called me and asked me where am I, I told him kano he said he will come tomorrow to my house. the next day he came with his friend, I did different types of food and teas. and even gave them some gifts. they stayed for 2 hrs that's where our relationship starts money is never a problem for him. he is like 25years older as me but he is so nice and he did so much for me.
I think I should just marry him.
he will come in June then we will discuss and get married very fast.
pls I need advice
