My marriage is just months, and I am pregnant I am Yoruba by tribe so is my husband When we we're courting I got to know he has a very big extended family where is mom is the 3rd wife... I came from a family where it is only my mum and dad and we were brought up with lots of Islamic knowledge and ways.... Few months to the wedding I told him I am not interested because I am afraid of his family, I don't think I can deal with the stress of a big Yoruba family in which he is the only Sunni among them ...... He begged me not to worry and even said we won't be living in the same state as they are so as to avoid the drama, he gave me lots of assurance But it is not it anymore I love my husband and he loves me But with the family trouble I feel I can't stay in this marriage I got lots of scenarios and I noticed my husband doesn't have a say in the family, even though he talks about what he wants or not he is always not answered 1. He said he doesn't want any singing and dancing during the wedding in their own house.... His mum said that he is the first born and she have never had a wedding they had the singing and dancing, he had to pack his friends to another place 2. He said he doesn't want the Yoruba ritual of performing ablution when they bring the wife home, I was told to do it and I had no choice... And this moments I knew what I entered My MIL calls my husband and says there is one wedding or that wedding I am suppose to go and he tells me..... I had to stop it by telling them I am working , in the space of 8 months I only went for 1 wedding .. When I got pregnant my husband told his mum She was happy Early Ramadan I was calling all my in-laws to say Barka for Ramadan shocking for me everyone is asking me how I was feeling and how am I faring ( I am shocked and sad ni dai in my house we don't say anything about pregnancy until when people see it, just like what the prophet said) I wanted to talk to him about it, but it will be as if I am attacking his mum, since it is his mum that is telling them, I asked someone that is also in an extended family she. Said that is how it is done. My siblings came to stay for the holiday, he told his mum, his aunt called me when school resumed that when are my siblings leaving .. I was shocked cuz must you tell them everything The worst of all is that He told me I am going to give birth in my MIL house that is not my problem, but the problem is they do ritual again, a woman that just gave birth is not allowed to eat salt, sugar or maggi until after 7 days WTF I asked him, he said I will talk to my mum about that But it just for talking sake I will just have to through this trauma too Sorry for the long post But this is it I am not use to this life style I am used to the lifestyle of me my family and few people I feel I knew I can't talk to my husband because it will be as if I am attacking his family So I thinking after delivering my baby I am walking out of this marriage But I don't know if it worth it Please advice me 😭😭😭 I didn't even tell my husband my exact pregnancy month because he said I will have to go to my MIL place on my 8th Month I am open to counselling and therapy if someone feels I am over reacting