that i can't get married bcoz I'm an introverted person and too serious with lif
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Anonymous Mar 20, 12:13 PM

that i can't get married bcoz I'm an introverted person and too serious with lif 0

so it was this morning, a classmate of mine that i didn't talk to for like 2years was asking me about stuffs. I first texted her coz i had a dream about her getting married, she used to be very close to me even though we don't talk all d time but we're always cool when we do. She ask about marriage told her there's no one just praying and hoping to meet someone pretty soon. She was like she will tell me d truth, that not her alone but all d rest of our friends have already said it that no man will want me bcoz I'm an introverted person and too serious with life. That d fact that i only dated once in my life and I'm turning 26 in some months to come shows that no man wants me. I really felt bad, but then when i sat and think over it, they might be right. Is something wrong with me?, is it a crime to be an introvert?, is it true that men doesn't like an introverted person (even though I'm free when around those I'm comfortable with) or too serious with life? I'm sorry d writeup is much, i just want to let everything out coz it's being eating me up for long, but today's own is just too much to swallow.
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Anonymous #1 Mar 20, 12:18 PM
I don't think its true, different people have different preference, taking myself as example as a male, I really would prefer someone serious with life because i believe in productivity and self development. I am also serious with life because i am not even into all these relationship stuff. There are men like you who will also seek counterparts with same lifestyles, just that those men in the Arewa society are minority to be frank
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Anonymous Mar 20, 12:35 PM

She said something similar to this about arewas too. that though i don't look like someone that's not hausa, but my attitude says it all that I'm not one of dem. Dik da i was born and raised in in d hausawas 🤣😂. it made me ask her if d hausa's are all extrovert by nature and unserious about life
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Ramatu salihu Mar 20, 12:39 PM
May Allah grant u pious spouse who will love you for who you are
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Fadeelahhh Mar 20, 01:24 PM
Don’t forget cewa what u see urself as is what others see u as.So just have faith in yourself, make your connection with Allah(swt) stronger, discuss with your mom. ❤️❤️❤️
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Anonymous #4 Mar 20, 03:34 PM
Poster, just chill nd be ur self. My wife is an introvert and am very happy with her. In fact am lucky to hv her as a wife. She's an amazing soul🥰. Just be yourself. Someone, somewhere 'll appreciate you for who you are.
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Anonymous #2 Mar 20, 06:04 PM
can you elaborate on that "too serious with life"? i want to understand first before I give my advice.
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Anonymous Mar 20, 06:46 PM

Academically i think, But from my own understanding may be they're judging me from my secondary school experience, lokacin u know soyayya da akeyi a school, da malamai or with fellow school mate. Lokacin haka zasu zauna suna firan auren, then i will leave d space. Everybody is my friend only if i know i will benefit academically. This is from my own understanding fa, bcoz when i asked what they meant they said nafisu sani
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Anonymous #3 Mar 20, 08:39 PM
Gaskiya wannan ba haka bane. You being serious with life means you’re investing in yourself kinsan me kikeyi and what is important to you in life might not be important to them, it means you have your own principles/core values kuma kowanni dan Adam nada nashi core values din. Ki yadda da rizq nothing that’s for you will miss you. Allah kawo mafi alkhairi
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Anonymous #6 Mar 21, 07:46 AM
tbh the part of being an introvert is not as problem as long as u not weird buh being too serious about life hmmm im not too sure about that one just loosen up a bit
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Far ee zer Apr 4, 02:29 PM
Assalamualaikum, being an introvert doesn't make one less lovable. In fact introverted people have one of the coolest persona when they're comfortable around their environment. Your friend said that because she believes you're too uptight around strangers or people not in your circle and you pay too much details to things she believes you can ignore and be cool with. Just like you said you thought of it and you think they "might" be right. Men like a lot of things but are moved by just one thing which they grab on to, untill they get it not minding introvert, extravert or in between. Don't over think this, do you, be you and grow you. Marriage pressure causes serious mental illness, don't let that get to you. Allah knows best and will give to you that which is best for you.
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Meenah2 Jun 5, 11:05 AM
poster we have sme problem wllhi am even tryn 2 change myself but it's not working..Allah ya kawo mna mafita🤝
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