Dec 13, 12:33 PM

My parents are very strict and its affecting me terribly

I read the post about the girl who posted about strict parents. I can relate to her. This is the first time I've ever posted about this and I can't post it without crying. I lost my mum when I was really young and since then my dad stopped us ( my siblings and I ) from going anywhere besides school. He's very wealthy but believes that the only thing his children need to have is food to eat and a bed to sleep. Is it possible that a girl won't have needs like soap to bathe or just a normal body cream, deodorant? Haba. We are also not allowed to go out and have friends over. Sometimes it sounds unreal that this is my life, I've lost almost all my friends because how do I explain it to them that I can't go out at my age? Even to the gate of the house. They also don't invite me anywhere cos they feel I won't come. I know it's his money not ours but we the children never asked to be born in the first place so why treat us badly? All the cleaners, maids and gateman have been fired and we now do their jobs. I don't even mind doing it, it's just the insult that comes with it. We are lazy and ungrateful. I don't know how I wake up every day, how am I still living. I've contemplated suicide many times but I feel it's too selfish of me to leave my siblings behind. I definitely can't keep a relationship because I won't be able to see whoever I'm dating. My step mother even had the audacity to ask me to bring a man home for marriage. From where pls? When I don't go out or nothing, I'm extremely beautiful, light skinned and I speak very well so if anyone even sees me, they will never know that I'm going through all of this. I'm optimistic that one day, my life will change. I just wanted to share my feelings with everyone.

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Dec 13, 05:56 PM
Have you tried talking to your father about this? I know it's a longshot but letting him know that you want freedom and implementing it in his mind slowly will make him less surprised when it actually happens. I know where you're coming from because I've had my share when it comes to strict parenting. Also if possible try to find a way to make your own money. Sometimes our parents don't respect our rights because they pay for our upbringing. Having some money of your own may make him feel threatened as the man of the house, but I think eventually he'll start to respect your gradual independency.…. I have a lot to say (feel free to dm me ) don't lose hope ❣️
Dec 13, 06:18 PM
Saudat abbas Dec 13, 05:24 PM

ok can I be ur frnd

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yes you can 😊😊 thank you
Dec 13, 06:19 PM
Anonymous #1 Dec 13, 05:49 PM
ya Allah, this is so heartbreaking sister and so sad to hear how someone is going through alot and u think you can help, but no way expect to pray for you May Almighty Allah bring an end to your suffe[...] ya Allah, this is so heartbreaking sister and so sad to hear how someone is going through alot and u think you can help, but no way expect to pray for you May Almighty Allah bring an end to your suffering and hard life that u are into Allah ya kawo miki mapita cikin gaggawa Allah ya rupa asiri Allah y kara miki juriya da hakuri
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Amin...Thanks a lot.
Dec 13, 06:21 PM
Anonymous Dec 13, 06:18 PM

yes you can 😊😊 thank you

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Dm through my IG saudat_traditional_henna
Dec 13, 06:21 PM
Ladyytima Dec 13, 05:56 PM
Have you tried talking to your father about this? I know it's a longshot but letting him know that you want freedom and implementing it in his mind slowly will make him less surprised when it actually[...] Have you tried talking to your father about this? I know it's a longshot but letting him know that you want freedom and implementing it in his mind slowly will make him less surprised when it actually happens. I know where you're coming from because I've had my share when it comes to strict parenting. Also if possible try to find a way to make your own money. Sometimes our parents don't respect our rights because they pay for our upbringing. Having some money of your own may make him feel threatened as the man of the house, but I think eventually he'll start to respect your gradual independency.…. I have a lot to say (feel free to dm me ) don't lose hope ❣️
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I already tried talking to him but it ended up with me being treated worse than I already was. No one can talk to him. Thank you
Dec 13, 06:22 PM
Saudat abbas Dec 13, 06:21 PM

Dm through my IG saudat_traditional_henna

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okay I will
Dec 13, 06:26 PM
Anonymous Dec 13, 06:22 PM

okay I will

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ok sis
Dec 13, 07:00 PM
Aslm. This is really heartbreaking Wallahi. keep praying, start sallan dare. try to start something that will help you. I'm shocked. because my story is very similar to yours. please I want us to keep in contact if it's possible.
Dec 13, 08:06 PM
Anonymous Dec 13, 06:21 PM

I already tried talking to him but it ended up with me being treated worse than I already was. No one can talk to him. Thank you

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yes probably because he was triggered. I guess your best bet now is to try and get some money on your own and do things on your own without him.
Dec 13, 09:31 PM
Gaskiya strictness din dad dinki yayi yawa sosai..but be patient one day it will all ne history insha Allah...zakiga kaman duk haka bai taba faruwa ba
Dec 13, 10:33 PM
Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi Rajiun… never balme your Dad for such acts… there’s something wrong somewhere… just keep praying… everything shall be alright Insha Allah… It might look wired for me saying not to blame your Dad… i said so based on experience, was also a victim of such thou i had my Mom and things need to be fixed cuz am a Man… just
Dec 14, 07:15 AM
keep on praying sister dts is d only key u have🤲I feel ur pain seriously 🥲
Dec 14, 10:59 AM
Allah sarki keep praying Allah zai kawo maki mafita people out there a suffering of this parents attitude Allah ya kyauta
Dec 14, 01:49 PM
Marierie Dec 13, 07:00 PM
Aslm. This is really heartbreaking Wallahi. keep praying, start sallan dare. try to start something that will help you. I'm shocked. because my story is very similar to yours. please I want us to [...] Aslm. This is really heartbreaking Wallahi. keep praying, start sallan dare. try to start something that will help you. I'm shocked. because my story is very similar to yours. please I want us to keep in contact if it's possible.
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so sorry you're going through the same thing. Yeah we can keep in touch
Dec 14, 01:51 PM
Ladyytima Dec 13, 08:06 PM

yes probably because he was triggered. I guess your best bet now is to try and get some money on your own and do things on your own without him.

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yes, that's what I plan to do.
Dec 14, 01:53 PM
Ramatu Saidu Dec 14, 07:15 AM

keep on praying sister dts is d only key u have🤲I feel ur pain seriously 🥲

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Thank you.🙂
Dec 14, 01:54 PM
MssKulthoum Dec 14, 10:59 AM

Allah sarki keep praying Allah zai kawo maki mafita people out there a suffering of this parents attitude Allah ya kyauta

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Thank you.🙂
Dec 14, 01:55 PM
Nasssss9 Dec 13, 09:31 PM

Gaskiya strictness din dad dinki yayi yawa sosai..but be patient one day it will all ne history insha Allah...zakiga kaman duk haka bai taba faruwa ba

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Amin...Thank you
Dec 14, 02:04 PM
Anonymous Dec 14, 01:53 PM

Thank you.🙂

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if u don't mind let's be sisters🤩 brownskin_gurl3
Dec 14, 02:05 PM
Anonymous Dec 14, 01:49 PM

so sorry you're going through the same thing. Yeah we can keep in touch

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ok. message me on ig @masha_reads
Dec 15, 05:17 AM
Allah sarki am really sorry for u Allah yayima ummanki rahma yabaku mafita yasa mahaifinku yagane
Dec 15, 01:40 PM
Dear poster this is so touching 😢😢😩 am speechless atm. may Allah bring u happiness and ease🙏
Dec 15, 10:11 PM
Aminaa Dec 15, 01:40 PM

Dear poster this is so touching 😢😢😩 am speechless atm. may Allah bring u happiness and ease🙏

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Ameeen...Thank you Sis❤️
Dec 15, 10:15 PM
Ramatu Saidu Dec 14, 02:04 PM

if u don't mind let's be sisters🤩 brownskin_gurl3

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yessssssss❤️❤️
Dec 15, 10:17 PM
Ramatu Saidu Dec 14, 02:04 PM

if u don't mind let's be sisters🤩 brownskin_gurl3

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