It's so disheartening, I wonder why it so happens. When you meet someone and start getting along and he heard you have kids BOOM he runs off. Sometimes you men needs to ask us if we'll be staying with our kids after marriage but you don't and besides you guys ain't sure if you'll be with your kids till when they grow up. Is it because you can't care for someone else kid or what?.
hmmmm this question is very complicated because there are so many reasons a man will run and there are reasons for a man to stay. let anybody in that situation handle it according to their situation because i don’t think there can be a general rule to accept it or decline it. and I can’t blame or judge any man who accept it or decline that fact.
I trust you and understand you deeply, you're absolutely right
Most men don't want to inherit the kids liability because people are more selfish these days than before.
The suitor’s financial status is worth knowing. Someone that’s financialy stable won’t find it terrible marrying a Divorcee, however the reverse is the case. I just met a Divorcee (with kids) and as a single I appreciate being with her and i hope we shall flourish together InshaAllah.
Actually alot of factors comes to play, 1. Responsibilities especially nowadays that the cost of living is very espesnsive, 2. Most women prefer to go with their children to your house, so their responsibilities will be on you if you aren't rich enough the burden will be too much on u, 3. Her mind is devided if the children are with their father 4. Usually elderly men are more reliable in marrying ladies with children while the ladies don't like them, just a few to be mentioned
it’s simple…. The child is not theirs…. they’d consider the kid a liability… they also don’t understand that a child belongs to the father not mother and only to a certain stage and the welfare of THAT child is on the child’s father… but the most important thing is “They Were Not Sincere” right from the beginning
they just wanted to while away time with you
consider it a good thing they ran!
exactly
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