Mbmustapha
Nov 10, 03:09 PM
Re: Issues we all need to address
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...favors those arewa girls the more... Not exactly. I don't think so. Ask the arewa girls, majority will tell you the same thing.
See the thing is, getting married is way harder in this era of ours. Imagine this scenario: a girl, coming out to publicize that she's forfeited or relinquished the traditional requirements of marriage, like lefe and all of them ceremony rituals that consume chunks of money. She'll most likely have guys come in droves wanting to get married to her. Now I'm not saying they're all worth it. Probably majority of them are not. But you'll certainly be able to get just a few that your research will show you they've got good job/business prospects. Then you can filter who you think is the best for you, stick with him and grow with him.
My point is, reduce the bar to which you require your prospective suitor to reach. Request for the barest minimum if you can. Lavish materials and lavish marriage ceremony isn't the barka and it isn't what's gonna keep you in your matrimonial home.
This advice is meant for those that their parents/those with authority over them would agree to though, and subsequently, those that don't care what the society thinks.
Peace ✌🏽🕊️
