I'm here to listen to opinions about what to do about my situation, I've been in a relationship with a lady for about over a year. she is a very wonderful lady and someone that I one hundred percent know would make a good wife. I've started making plans to get married before the end of 2026 even to the point of getting and furnishing a house ( and you know how our people are the moment one seems "stable") but she says she's doesn't think she wants to get married until maybe 2 years later as she's just 23 and currently serving while I'm 28 going to 29 soon. So my dilemma is, is it worth it to continue my relationship with her or to seek someone else and spend the next six months getting to know each other properly in anticipation of marriage. And how to go about it without feeling like I played with her feelings and emotions
both of you are simply at different stages of readiness, both have valid reasons. Talk openly with her about timelines and understand her reasons for waiting. If your goals can align, stay; if not, respectfully walk away now to avoid hurting each other later.
She’s 23, just finishing NYSC, and probably still figuring out her direction. Wanting to wait 2 more years doesn’t mean she doesn’t value you — it just means she wants to enter marriage when she feels mentally and emotionally ready.You, at 28/29, are naturally in a different life stage. So the difference in timelines is normal, not a sign of incompatibility.You’re ready. You’re planning your future, investing in stability, and your desire to settle down soon is completely legitimate.You’re not wrong for wanting clarity about your life.
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