I'm here to listen to opinions about what to do about my situation, I've been in a relationship with a lady for about over a year. she is a very wonderful lady and someone that I one hundred percent know would make a good wife. I've started making plans to get married before the end of 2026 even to the point of getting and furnishing a house ( and you know how our people are the moment one seems "stable") but she says she's doesn't think she wants to get married until maybe 2 years later as she's just 23 and currently serving while I'm 28 going to 29 soon. So my dilemma is, is it worth it to continue my relationship with her or to seek someone else and spend the next six months getting to know each other properly in anticipation of marriage. And how to go about it without feeling like I played with her feelings and emotions
both of you are simply at different stages of readiness, both have valid reasons. Talk openly with her about timelines and understand her reasons for waiting. If your goals can align, stay; if not, respectfully walk away now to avoid hurting each other later.
She’s 23, just finishing NYSC, and probably still figuring out her direction. Wanting to wait 2 more years doesn’t mean she doesn’t value you — it just means she wants to enter marriage when she feels mentally and emotionally ready.You, at 28/29, are naturally in a different life stage. So the difference in timelines is normal, not a sign of incompatibility.You’re ready. You’re planning your future, investing in stability, and your desire to settle down soon is completely legitimate.You’re not wrong for wanting clarity about your life.
bro make I dash u better weed rap make u calm ur self down small😂😂😂
u go reason am well well
hmmm women
now if she reach 28 after nys she'll start complaining that men are not asking for her hand or they just come for fun.
bro should be open for her, let her know u wanna spend urife her, plan for your future together. women supposed to give those that are ready and faithful to them.
I really don't know what happened to those young ladies, na so I don't want to be in relationships with young ladies wlh
Man it not about getting married, it about having that capacity and capabilities to marry.....physically,mentally and emotionally so they all have their points plus it not like if she doesn't now she won't later Allah's timing is neither early nor too late.
exactly and I also don't want her to feel like I'm pressuring her. She said she told her mom about me and her mom asks about me once in a while but I've never met or spoken to her.
true, but giving her an ultimatum to decide immediately would be too much pressure.
cool!
fatan alkhairi
Wow her mom knows you but haven't met you well for me......you're still under a scale of acceptance or d opposite so yeah no pressures.....
She has her decisions so I think they'll come to terms....
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bro me wlh if I am stable now, I can sort out all my weddings bills and rent. bro I swear I no go continue dating her. if she's ready let parent get involved so I can rest my mind. and no body go fix engagement data for more than 6 month
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