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Assalamu alaikum ya a'hibbayi Barkan ku da Sallah kuma Allah ya Kara maimaita mana Ameen π
recently I noticed a growing number of ladies comparing and complaining that their boyfriends is miser/stingy/maku etc.
I believe most of us went to islamiyya and our reason for going to islamiyya is to reflect the Islamic education into your lives right? good...
Islamically, wehther you are a guy or a lady, it is good to give gifts to people babies πΆ, elder π§ aunties π©πΌ mother π΅ even a girlfriend π§πΌ (with intention of marriage) boyfriend (with the intention of marriage) and shall receive lada/good deeds/ha'saanat... may Allah grant us good deed from our daily acts.
Our focus is on guy giving a lady a gift right?
firstly, let's talk about our culture, imagine yourself as a father or a mother which children, and one of your female child brought a gift to the house from someone you both don't know? is that part of our culture fisabilillah? we both know that some guys have evil intentions towards a lady and they will use gifts her to lower her down to his needs...
Secondly, Let's talk about the Islamic ruling on gifting a lady... a gift is not giving a lady directly rather, through her parents and when her parents accepts such gifts then a lady should accept it, and they most already be in a courtship with a sole intention of marriage and nothing else, meaning engagement and both parents most know each other too .
Thirdly, let's talking about the economy, I know, I have seen, and I understand that most/some ladies are finding life difficult due to financial and emotional stress in the country, especially those in schools, may Allah make it easy for you all and the guys too... I have no Islamic Hadith in gifting on this aspect ( please some should teach us the Islamic rulings here), but generally speaking a it is encouraged for a financially capable guy with good intentions to earn reward from Allah SWT to assist a lady who is in need of financial assistance to support her education, feeding, and other important things not Kayan sallah and other irrelevant things in order to avoid the lady (especially those in school) from falling a victim to the evil minded guys.
by the way, I stand to be corrected π¨βπ
my personal advise to all ladies, Zamani ya chanxa the world is coming to an end please and please try as much as possible to start a business or learn a skill and perfect yourself on it because the more you ask a guy the more some of them will try to take advantage of you, by saying this, I will also like to advise the men, my guys, my able and capable gender π instead of gifting a lady with cloth or shoe or whatever, let's try and support their businesses by patronizing them, by getting customers for them, or by financially adding the number of their products so that they can grow and we earn a growing reward from Allah SWT.
So my brothers and sisters, my Sallah is not complete because I have not eaten pounded yam yet π₯Ή and no body invited me to eat pounded yam with goat meat π but I surely hope your Eid was well spent, Allah has accepted your sacrifices and rewarded you all aboundantly and may see many more EID to come and may our deceased loved ones continue to rest under Allah's Rahma and light. I love you All β€οΈ π π
Taqabalallahu Minna Wa Minkum! |
