Title:	Why does it seem like men don’t value the woman that lives them
Content:	I have often reflected on a question that troubles many hearts: why does it sometimes seem as though men do not value the woman who truly loves them? It is a painful reality that many women give their all, love, care, devotion, and sacrifice, yet their worth is overlooked. The truth is that when love becomes certain and sure, some men fall into the trap of complacency. They stop putting in the effort they once showed, believing the love will always remain no matter how they treat it. This is a great mistake because love, if neglected, grows weary and the heart that gives endlessly without appreciation will one day go silent. There are also men who chase excitement more than stability. They pursue novelty, failing to realize that the real treasure lies in the woman who stands firmly by their side. Some others wrestle with pride or insecurity, not knowing how to honor the love they are being freely given. Sadly, many only discover her value when she has already walked away. My message to men is simple: never take for granted a woman who truly loves you. If she prays for you, supports you in stormy days, and brings peace to your soul, you are holding a treasure beyond price. Protect her heart, cherish her presence, and never allow familiarity to blind you to her worth. And to women, remember this also: love is not meant to drain you or make you feel less than what you are. A man who truly understands love will honor you, uplift you, and never let you question your value. Love is not a game. It is not to be played with or carelessly handled. It is a sacred gift, a bond that should be nurtured with gratitude and respect. Let us all, men and women alike, stop taking for granted the ones who love us deeply. For in the end, life is too short to lose a good heart that was always there for us.
Category:	Relationship	Aug 31, 09:43 PM

Title:	Why Men Stop Putting Effort After Getting a “Yes”
Content:	In the beginning of many relationships, a man will put in so much effort. He will call every day, send messages in the morning and at night, shower her with attention and find little ways to make her smile. That early stage is usually filled with energy and excitement because he is still trying to win her heart. But the moment she agrees to be his woman, something often changes. The attention begins to reduce, the calls are not as frequent, and the sweet words become rare. She starts to wonder if she has done something wrong or if his feelings have faded. The truth is that for some men, the thrill of the chase drives their actions more than the joy of consistency. They enjoy the challenge of pursuing a woman, and once they succeed, they feel their work is done. Some begin to take the woman for granted, assuming that since she has already said yes, she will not leave. Others simply slide into a comfort zone, no longer putting in the same energy they did at the beginning. For some, it may even reveal their true intentions. They were never truly serious about building something lasting. Their main goal was to win her attention, and once that is achieved, the effort naturally dies down. Yet in other cases, the reason is not bad character but the weight of personal struggles. Work pressure, financial stress or family demands may cause a man to withdraw without realizing the effect it has on his partner. No matter the reason, the impact on a woman is often painful. She begins to feel less valued, less cherished and less secure. What drew her close in the first place were those small but consistent gestures that made her feel special. When they disappear, she feels like the relationship has lost its spark. Love was never meant to be a short burst of energy. It was meant to be steady, consistent and growing stronger with time. A woman deserves to be loved with the same attention and effort after she says yes, not less. That is what builds trust, deepens connection and makes a relationship last.
Category:	Relationship	Aug 31, 09:35 AM

Title:	Seriously searching for a partner
Content:	I find myself at a point in life where my heart longs for something pure and true, someone to call my own, someone whose soul will meet mine in a union of peace and joy. I am searching, not just for a partner, but for a woman who will be both my strength and my softness, my companion and my confidant. I pray to meet someone who is kind at heart, thoughtful in spirit, gentle in words, yet strong in values. A woman whose laughter will light up my days and whose silence will still feel comforting. I long for someone who is loyal, understanding, patient, and who believes in growth both as individuals and together as one. To her, I will give more than just love. I will give devotion. I will stand by her not only in times of ease but also in moments of trial. I will crown her with respect, treat her like the queen she is, and guard her heart as my greatest treasure. I will give her my attention, my time, my loyalty, and the warmth of my embrace. With me, she will never have to doubt how much she means, for I will make it known every day. I will cherish her deeply, support her dreams, celebrate her wins, and comfort her when life feels heavy. I will love her not only with words, but with actions. Actions that will remind her that she is the best part of my life. I will make a home in my heart where she will always find safety, and I will nurture a love so pure it will grow with every passing day. Until I find her, I will continue to pray and prepare myself to be the man she deserves. But when I do, I promise she will know that she has found someone who will never let her feel unloved, unwanted, or unappreciated.
Category:	Relationship	Aug 31, 09:24 AM

Title:	How I met the love of my life (part 2)
Content:	Chapter 2: Colors of Destiny After that wild night in Abuja, every day felt like a new painting waiting to happen. Amira and I, we clicked – her vibe just mixed right with mine, like paint on a palette. The city was our playground, a canvas for our story. I tossed out the idea of her checking my art crib, a spot where creativity flowed, and the walls told stories in colors. Amira, with those curious eyes, took it all in. It felt like my art was a window to my soul, and she was peeking into the real me. Nights turned into walks under the city lights where Amira's laugh echoed like the coolest song. Each step felt like a brushstroke, adding layers to the masterpiece we were creating. But in the middle of all this artsy stuff, there was a shadow hanging around. Amira, with her mysterious vibe, dropped hints about adventures and untold stories. I could feel there was more to her, something waiting to be uncovered. Our connection got deeper with shared stories and secret glances. Yet, there was something unspoken, like a painting missing its final touches, waiting for the grand reveal. As the days rolled on, I couldn't help but wonder – what secrets did Amira keep from her past? And how would these untold stories paint our shared future? In the midst of the artistic journey, we found ourselves tangled in moonlit strolls, exploring the city's hidden corners. Amira's laughter became the soundtrack to our adventure, a melody that echoed in the quiet alleys. But as our connection flourished, I couldn't shake off the feeling that the mysteries of Amira's past held the key to the final strokes of our canvas. Would her untold tales add depth to our masterpiece, or would they introduce shades of uncertainty? To be continued...
Category:	Relationship	Feb 2, 12:11 PM

Title:	How I met the love of my life(love story)
Content:	Chapter 1: A Twist in Fate So, here I find myself, just chilling in Abuja, this absolutely awesome spot where destiny seems to groove in its own special way. Picture me, lounging in this cozy café – nothing too extravagant. Looked up, and boom! There she was, Amira. Her smile? It didn't just light up the whole place; it felt like it could rival the city lights, injecting warmth into the air. Our eyes locked, and out of nowhere, magic vibes hit. Amira's laugh? It echoed, man, like time just decided to take a break. Something clicked, like setting up a stage for a love story that's written in the stars, you feel me? I casually tossed the idea at Amira to check out my art spot. Colors mixing, scents chilling, my art's like my unsaid words, you know? She's vibing with it, feeling the groove like the beat of a heart. We hit the city streets under the glow of lights and a moon doing its own thing. Amira's laugh? It turned into this melody in my heart, creating a symphony of emotions that words couldn't quite capture. Every step felt like the universe saying, "You're onto something, my friend." Beneath the moon, I grab Amira's hand, spilling out, "Feels like we've known each other forever." Her eyes? They agree, and it's like our connection is getting deeper with every passing moment. But those stars? They're holding onto secrets, stuff the moon ain't spilling yet. To be continued... and trust me, what happens next? It's gonna leave you breathless, hanging onto the edge of your seat, wondering where this tale of love is about to take us.
Category:	Relationship	Feb 1, 11:36 PM

Title:	Dear men, appreciate a good woman when you see one
Content:	Men need to do better with rewarding women morality more. A woman who’s not promiscuous, a woman who’s submissive, a supportive woman should get the best of you. Not these damaged women getting rewards they don’t deserve only to pass the narrative “good girI no dey pay”. For every sacrifice a good woman makes for you, take note of it and reward her accordingly.
Category:	Relationship	Jul 11, 07:10 PM

Title:	Love advice for both gender
Content:	Any man not prepared to take full control of his marriage or relationship invariably signs up for a subservient role. There is no better way to teach your sons to be great men than being a living example of a great leader. No better way to teach your daughters to know their worth and make great choice in men than being a great husband and father. Masculinity is best served from the top.
Category:	Relationship	Jul 11, 07:06 PM

Title:	A Love Letter for my future girlfriend
Content:	Dear future girlfriend, First and foremost, I appreciate the fact that you thought the idea of writing you a “LOVE LETTER" was cute. It does feel weird writing to you considering that you do not exist. Or rather you exist; I am just unaware of your existence. I don’t know, if by now, I already know you. Maybe you’re some girl whom I’ve known before; got lost in the hundreds of friends I have and will eventually be the greatest thing in my life. Or maybe I haven’t really met you yet. Please understand that I’m not perfect. I’m very far from being one. So, I hope that you will love me the way I am. I would really love to calm you down when you’re pissed. It makes me glad to see your mood lighten up, especially knowing that I am the reason behind the smiles. Please accept the cheesy love letters I will give you not just on our monthsary or on your birthday but also on some lazy afternoon. And, I am more than happy to be your alarm clock. I will wake you up in the morning and send you to sleep at night. I will keep checking you out to know how your day went or what’s on your mind. Always remember that I am not just your lover but your best friend as well. I don’t have a good singing voice but for you I will sing. Sorry if I am out of tune but believe me, it’s the best that I can do. I love to travel and I hope you also do. If you’re still reading, i imagine you find this content intriguing enough to at least consider becoming my future-girlfriend. Or did i just implant that thought into your head? My future girlfriend there are a lot of reasons why i love you. I love that you are HONEST. You always speak truthfully at all times about all things. Without trust, a relationship is a bust. LOYAL. You take pride in in honoring me as your man before all others. HUMBLE. You find the most joy in the simple things in life, and have no diva tendencies. EASY-GOING. Wanna walk with me to the beach? Play sports? Sing songs that we both know? Of course you do! You like to go with the flow. SUPPORTIVE of the things I do and the things that are important to me. Aligned with my SENSE OF HUMOR. You love hearing my corny jokes. You just laugh with me all the time. So yeah, future girlfriend, I’m really glad we found each other. Please understand that you’re getting a quality future boyfriend in return. And don’t worry if you don’t have every single quality I’ve listed in this love letter. I certainly didn’t become the perfect man overnight, and I’m willing to work with you. And one more thing…….. Sooner or later you will be my girlfriend, so you don’t have to worry. You’re always be better than the girl of my dreams basically because you are REAL. Thanks for taking time to read this love letter future girlfriend. I’m looking forward to share the next phase of my life with you. Your Future Boyfriend, Khalifa
Category:	Relationship	Jul 7, 11:05 PM

Title:	what you should do if your partner makes you sad often in a relationship
Content:	If you think of your partner/relationship and you automatically become sad and moody, Then you dating the wrong person. Move on!!! The more you delay, the more you kill your chances to meeting the right person.
Category:	Relationship	Apr 29, 12:27 AM

Title:	what's your opinion on Blind dates
Content:	Okay uhmm.. so a A blind date is a social engagement between two people who have not met, usually arranged by a mutual acquaintance. what do you all think about a blind date organized by Arewaup (specially for people who want to court for some time before marriage). It should be organized in like a public restaurant, cafe or an eatery of security reasons. I just think of it as a way for one to get to know or meet his or her soul mate and vibe well. what do you all think?
Category:	Advice	Apr 11, 10:37 AM

Title:	life has shown me shege
Content:	following the kind of pains i'm going through, life has shown me shege
Category:	Lifestyle	Apr 7, 11:19 PM

Title:	A super strong advice to all the singles in this forum
Content:	Dear single Ladies and Gentleman, you know what they say, never go grocery shopping when you're hungry. You'll grab the wrong things. Same applies to real life situations. Never go into a relationship when you feel lonely, you might grab the wrong thing. Think about it, because if you are desperate, you'll grab anything you want, not what you need. And I want you to get only what you need.
Category:	Advice	Mar 30, 11:33 PM

Title:	Dear men, know your wife and mother's place in your life
Content:	In your household, Your wife holds greater authority than every other woman including your Mother. Allow her be the woman and mother of the house. Hehe. I know women will like this one because it gives them authority and precedence over family affairs but it's the truth. However, Your own Mother has more authority in your House than your wife's Mother. Bro, She is your Mom. Women will not like this one. Ask them why they why they have a problem with it and they will have no answer, Because deep down they want their own mother to have more authority than your own mother in your own House. Infact, If you allow them, their siblings will enjoy more privileges and have more authority than your own siblings. Do you see the self interest? Your wife's Mom can only have more authority than a Mother in law in her own son's house. Sadly, You are not her son. Accord her due respect but give your Mother her flowers.
Category:	Advice	Mar 30, 11:20 PM

Title:	7 misconceptions men mistake for masculinity (a must read)
Content:	1 - Never make sacrifices or empower a woman you are not yet married to, It is all water under the bridge. 2 - Never trust any woman, They are all the same and once they've had enough, they will disappoint you. 3 - Never show emotions around women, It makes you vulnerable and they will exploit that weakness for selfish gains. 4 - Never spend or go out of your way to please a woman , That's Simp behaviour and puts other men in bad light. 5 - Never financially support a woman you have not pierced. The goal is to penetrate and move forward. 6 - Never seriously date a single Mom, They are not worth the stress and kings don't raise other men's kids. 7- Never display so much love or make her feel too special, lest she's going to take you for granted. They always do. ____________________________ ____________________________ The danger of buying into gender war and the riddled idea of social media Alphaness is that you may end up losing the Father figure in you. You end up becoming self centered, self absorbed, egoistical and ultimately, losing that Father's love. These is obviously TOXICITY disguised as MASCULINITY and it only promotes robot-ship and lack of compassion. Ofcos, MANY young boys buying into this delusion of Alphaness are boys who naturally, dislike the idea of responsibility. This is just another golden opportunity to shy away from responsibility and being held accountable for their actions and inactions. You scream women are this and women are that but somehow believe that your own mother is an Angel? Lol! I pray you don't lose the Kindness in you as you go about chasing toxicity disguised as Masculinity
Category:	Advice	Mar 26, 10:42 AM

Title:	Good morning poem to all the awesome Arewa Queens
Content:	TO ANY LADY READING THIS. THIS IS FOR YOU! Dear Morning Star, the one up on my sky I found you in my dreams when I lay As I slept, your thoughts fell into my thoughts Sunk into the bowels of my stomach. I found crystals of you Whenever I close my eyes, it’s you on my mind I open to see the sun, it’s you I see As your eyes have opened my morning Know you are never asleep in my heart Cheers for being you. Thanks for being awesome.
Category:	General	Feb 9, 11:32 PM

Title:	Dear men, teach the women in your lives how to stand up to a man
Content:	If you fail to inform, educate and empower the women around you to become wiser and stronger than average, You or some other man will end up preying on them, taking advantage of their weaknesses or just looking down on them. Even if you are too kind a man to prey on or take advantage, You'd subconsciously look down on them because they are uninformed and lack substance. Women can never teach other women enough because most of their lessons are either from a place of pain, fear or doubts. Ofcos as men, You can never teach a woman how to be a woman but you can always teach her how to stand up to a man. Teach your sister, teach your daughter, teach your wife, your girlfriend and your female friends.
Category:	General	Feb 9, 11:24 PM

Title:	Ladies! What you should do when he finally comes into your life
Content:	Dear Daughter, When you finally meet that one guy who sees beyond your flaws, treats you better and makes you whole again. NEVER question his motives, Never fear his love or doubt the process or think you are not worthy. Its normal to be worried but NEVER be so surprised that it's finally happening to you, Because you deserve all of it. You have worked hard and suffered for all of it.
Category:	Relationship	Feb 7, 11:41 PM

Title:	Farewell Arewaup
Content:	So I'd be taking sometime off this forum. Is everything well? No. I pray and hope it'll get better tho. But in the meantime I'm gonna be off for sometime. Thank you all for a time worthwhile. And keep loving. Never give up on love. Be that awesome person you want others to be with you. Always know that you're beautiful. Irrespective of your size, color, looks. Don't allow anyone play with your self esteem I hope I'd return soon. Farewell.
Category:	General	Jan 30, 10:25 PM

Title:	Ladies! You are not ugly, It is just an opinion
Content:	Do not validate that opinion by squeezing yourself into dresses that do not represent your body type. If you can stop forcing yourself into small dresses, You would appreciate the beauty in being thick. If you can stop trying to fit into dresses that don’t compliment your body type, You would begin to appreciate your body type. Sagged breasts cannot stop your cleavages from bouncing or looking attractive, pack them well. Stretchmarks are just maps to your story, so tell your story and stop feeling small about it. Crop tops are for flat tommies, don’t let peer pressure force you into joining a trend you are not physically suited for. There are dresses for all shapes and sizes, find yours and don’t let anyone stop you from looking gorgeous.
Category:	Advice	Jan 22, 05:47 AM

Title:	Men, what's the most romantic thing you've done for your woman
Content:	Men, what's the most romantic thing you've done for your woman. Read mine in the comment.
Category:	Relationship	Jan 20, 06:51 PM

Title:	A great challenge to approaching ladies
Content:	I'm gonna speak for myself, I've got this challenge in approaching ladies. Like, a few weeks back I met this pretty cute lady at a bodega. And I found her really adorable. I wanted to get her contact but while trying to approach her I had second thoughts. I was like... "I don't think a lady this beautiful and classy is single" "She's most likely taken" "What if she snubs or she's rude" This has happened to me a couple of times and I dunno if I'm the only one experiencing this. Its a big challenge for me.
Category:	Advice	Jan 15, 11:34 AM

Title:	Stop overrthinking
Content:	You are overthinking again. Breath… It’s going to be okay, You will figure it out and even if you don’t figure it out, that’s still okay.
Category:	Advice	Jan 14, 09:44 PM

Title:	Dear men, value what you've got
Content:	Look at your girl. You see how good she looks? You see all the awesome qualities she's got? Now imagine another guy enjoying her and you not meaning shit to her anymore. Exactly why you should get your act together and give no room for f#ck ups. Life is too short and you can't have opportunities pass by you because really good relationships are hard to come by. Did you know that if you're preoccupied with the wrong people, the good ones out there are just passing you by and could actually be the relationship that is meant to be.
Category:	Relationship	Jan 14, 01:21 AM

Title:	Hope you've healed
Content:	Dear you I hope you're happy I hope you look in the mirror And love what you see I hope you've healed from all the wounds And your mind is free Making yourself a priority Building your dreams in reality. Happy
Category:	General	Jan 8, 11:02 PM

Title:	Letter to my Future Wife
Content:	Dear future wife, Whether you are reading this before you meet me, or stumble upon it after, I want you to know a few things. The reason I am writing this today is because I can’t stop thinking about you, and I can’t stop myself from imagining how happy we will be. Let this letter be a promise to you that I will do my best to be the man I want to be for you. I may not yet know all of the difficulties that come with a lifetime commitment, but I have enough relationship experience to know what I want and how I picture my life with the person I will commit to: you. Those around me are a continuous source of education and inspiration on how I want our relationship to be. So here and today, I vow to try my best to do the following: I promise to do my best to make you beam daily, so count on many surprises. Your smile will be my priority. I get weak knees when anybody smiles, so just imagine the effort I will make to be the source of yours. I promise I will always look at you with the same adoration as I did the moment I realized I loved you. I promise to try to ignite the same sparkle in your eyes I see when you’re surprised, inspired, motivated or when you are about to lean in to kiss me. I promise to hold your hand when we’re 80 years old (In Sha Allah) with the same liveliness that I did when I crossed that line to hold yours for the first time. I vow never to let the excitement of being with me die down; I will surprise you with the location, the reason or the activity itself. I promise to keep you guessing where we’re going next. I promise to do my best always to interest you. I will keep reinventing myself, gaining new hobbies, new knowledge and new interests to keep you -- and myself -- entertained. I promise to have new stories to share with you, and maybe I’ll retell the best ones again if you insist. Our friendship will continue to grow over the years. I vow to challenge you to challenge yourself for the better; to make you think differently. I promise to try to feed off of your illuminating energy that will inspire me to do the same with myself. I will do my best to ensure that being bored never crosses your mind. Even in grief and darkness, I promise to show you the different shades of the dark, and to help you find the tiny rays of light that are always there if you seek them. After all, there’s always worse than worst and better than best; everything is relative. I promise to do my best to remain physically attractive for you, and I will do my best to be healthy. I promise to help you to be healthy, both physically and mentally. I will cook and clean for us when chanced. Expect the best meals prepared by me... waina, whatever followed my favourite, cakes with… well, I can’t give all the secrets out. I promise to strive to be a role model for our children. I want both you and them to see me as a source of motivation. I want to inspire them in the same way that my father inspires me. I promise to do my best to love your family as you love them and to be by their side as much as I am by yours. I promise to always listen to you when you simply just want to be heard; when you want someone to vent to about something or when you want advice. I will listen to you especially when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with anybody else, and to the things you try to tell me when you’re not even speaking. I promise to always listen. During our life together, I promise to make sure that you feel as though you are the center of the household -- I know you will be -- and I will always try to show my appreciation for you because of that. Being the man of the house is nothing without a woman. I promise never to let my guard down in taking care of us. I know you won’t be one to be satisfied with the bare minimum. I promise to do everything that I can for you without taking away from your independence physically, intellectually or emotionally. I promise to create family traditions and to make sure that your legacy lives forever through our children. I promise to give you a halal marriage. Sincerely, Your Future Husband
Category:	Marriage	Jan 8, 06:41 AM

Title:	MEN, WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER BODY SHAME A LADY
Content:	Ladies will always make you feel like cheating on them with a prettier girl doesn't hurt as much as it does with lesser girl. That's not true. Nothing hurts a woman more than cheating on or leaving her for a prettier woman. M Aside the pain of feeling dumped, It makes her feel insecure about herself, Makes her feel she's not good enough. And it hurts because there are physical evidences that the other person is prettier and that means she can't compete. For instance, a guy leaves a slim girl for some lady with big ass, or a lady with big boobs It will hurt because it questions her self esteem. Forget the fake wishes. Nobody wants people who dumps them to find perfection in the new relationship, Somehow, we all secretly hope they miss us, realize our worth and regret their decisions. Not because we wish them harm but we need some form of closure and consolation that we were not a total crap. Why am I even saying this? Okay, Making expensive jokes about your woman's body is an animal character, its rude, highly derogatory. You can't just make a human being feel unattractive because you think you have an opinion and a preference. It's not like you can even create a human being yourself. Making casual insensitive remarks such as " nawao you too slim, orobo, when you go add weight now" etc... I've heard several cases of body shaming in relationships. A lady once told me her boyfriend calls her shapeless whenever they're having an argument 💔 Another lady said her boyfriend threatens to break up unless she adds some weight and ass. 🤦‍♂️ All this and more. Many other ladies have their own different body shaming stories from men they're in a relationship with. This is one of the reasons women are intimidated and are always in competition with other women. They're always trying to improve their bodies because they think what they have is what no man would want. The fat ones want to be slim. The slim ones want to be busty. Sad reality. No one is saying you shouldn't have your spec or the kinda lady you desire. Everyone is worth something. Don't look down on a lady because of her body or face. Women are not perfect, and so men also aren't. It's not cool to body shame anyone at all!!
Category:	Advice	Jan 1, 03:20 AM

Title:	DATING A GUY/LADY ABOVE YOUR LEAGUE/LEVEL
Content:	I don't know if it's just me but I find this phrase of "dating above your League" kind of weird. I mean come to think of it, what is the league even about? is it about financial league, physical appearance league, intelligence league or whatever league it is that we use to analyze compatibility between ourselves and potential partners? Because at the end of the day, we are all HUMANS so I don't think that phrase should exist especially in the dating world. Many at times the whole ideology of dating some one above your league is fueled by people with really low self esteem. Now, If I'm being realistic, I agree that certain people might not be our cup of tea just like we are not everyone's cup of tea because as humans we all have our own "types" or "specs", or maybe we are not just compatible or attracted to them which is fine, or maybe we don't share the same values as them etc but it still doesn't mean that you are above their "league" or you are better than them because I've noticed that most times, that phrase is usually used in a derogatory manner if that makes any sense. I think that we need to start looking beyond the superficial stuff like how much do they have in their bank account, how good looking they are, what type of car do they drive,the latest gadgets they use etc(Which is not a bad thing to have don't get me wrong🤷🏾‍♀️) but focus on more important things like if they have values, if they are kind, if they have integrity, if they're hardworking and responsible, if they have respect for you and other people in general and If they show up for you etc. Superficial stuff should be like an icing on a cake and not the main cake itself. While character and values should be the cake which is still delicious even without the icing(I just have to use cake as an example in this context as a cake lover😂) Finally, I might have some conflicting opinions, because this is actually not a right or wrong type of thing but it's just my own opinion so you're free to disagree.
Category:	Relationship	Dec 31, 08:59 AM

Title:	"I know you miss him, but.." A message to all the hurt/heartbroken ladies
Content:	I KNOW YOU MISS HIM. You want to call him and hear his voice again. To hear him joke again. To see that sparkly smile again. You want to feel the warmth of his skin again even if it is only for a moment. You want to.. I KNOW YOU STILL MISS HIM. 😔 Sometimes, You see him when your eyes close. You hear his voice when the wind brush against your face. You smell his breath against your ears and it feels like every memory you have tried to bury is digging out. I KNOW YOU REALLY MISS HIM. 😢 Even though you pretend not to. Even though he's an asshole and you know clearly that he doesn't deserve an ounce of your love. You miss him. And everyone has warned against him. He broke you before, he will break you again. You know all this but still.. I KNOW YOU HELPLESSLY MISS HIM. ☹️ And it annoys you that you do. You wish you could crush that stupid feeling but it keeps crushing you. Everything reminds you of him even when you are not thinking of him, he just invades your thoughts and make your blood warm. I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU MISS HIM. 😐 Nobody else understands but I do. The feelings won't stay buried, someone is always back with a shovel. I know you miss him but YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG. Not to prove anything to him but to prove to yourself that beneath that fragile heart is a Strong Resilient woman who deserves to heal and be loved. It will not be easy but you can pull it off. This is you. Pick up a shovel and dig out the strength you buried because of love, Dig it out and dust it. You are not weak, You are only in love but its time to snap out of it. Pick a shovel today and start digging. You will be fine
Category:	Advice	Dec 30, 09:02 PM

Title:	WHY YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE MONEY TO LADIES YOU JUST MET!!
Content:	Stop being in a hurry to grant financial aid to ladies you just met, especially those you approached. Be intentional about the talking stage and maintain the status quo otherwise it might become a billing stage. If you truly want to build something natural or solid with her, then avoid any situation that may compel you to grant financial aid. Nigerian ladies undervalue financial aids during the first two or three weeks of meeting each other, Because many of them have this feeble preconceived mindset that boys will always try to impress or pretend to care. Even if your intentions are pure, she has got her doubts in play and trust me, she’s not that moved. The “Thanks!” You get afterwards is just a formality, deep down she still feels- Oh well, boys will always be boys! To put this into perspective, I mean girls who casually, stylishly puts you in that position like : I’m hungry. I’m not fine. I’m broke. That is tactical blackmail, It’s all manipulation. Do not fall for it and do not try to prove how much you care by lending financial aid. She will most likely turn you into a simp and maga because the tactical blackmail and billing will never stop. She’s always going to be hungry. Always going to crave ice cream. Always going to need that urgent 2k very urgently… I mean you could ask why she hadn’t returned your calls or message and the next thing is - I am out of data/airtime. She turns everything into an opportunity to bill you because you’ve shown her you have money to give and that will affect how she sees you. Many girls don’t see any reason to go into a relationship with you if already gain financial benefit benefit from you. And the most annoying part is the fact that they don’t appreciate your kindness, In their small minds they feel you can’t resist or say no to them. They believe you are always quick to come through for them because you want something from them. Granting financial support to a girl you like but just met is risky because it can quickly change the direction of your relationship with her. Avoid it!!! Talking stages are meant for conversations not semi blackmails and tactical billing. Never try to prove anything with money because whatever you start with money, will definitely require money to finish up.
Category:	Relationship	Dec 30, 02:24 PM

Title:	What men mean by "I need a break in this relationship" and what you ladies should do
Content:	Assalamu Alaikum dear ladies. This article explains what the majority of men mean when they say “ I need a break! - To clear my head or put things in order. I want you to have this information so you’d not live in denial if ever you find yourself in the situation. Men are the most intentional beings on earth especially when it comes to their emotions. Men know what they want. A man can be a serial flirt but a man is hardly puzzled between two ladies. Trust me, he knows who he wants. Even when he is exposed to other options, he knows what he wants. Highest, He’s going to have a bite and then go back to his original choice. She may not be as pretty as the other girls he’s been with but where a man finds peace and loyalty, he builds his tent. Women on the other hand are intentional about every other activities in life but their emotions. A woman can know what she wants and still be confused when exposed to variety because women are always scared-conscious of making a mistake. That explains why even a decent girl in a great relationship can easily generate cold feet when she’s exposed to other options. For example, a marriage proposal from a financially stable man can inadvertently interfere with a woman’s initial choice or interests. This to say that women are never truly convinced of any promises you make to them until they see themselves in a wedding dress. So when a woman says : I need a break “ There is every possibility that it is harmless. She probably needs you to reassure her that’s all. I need a break for most women is just an attention seeker. She wants to see how much she means and if you are going to fight for her. But when a man says he needs a break, trust me and give him that break because there is a 99% chance that the decision is intentional. Men hardly ever needs attention or reassurance, all they need is loyalty and submission so if you are loyal to a man and he says that?? Grant him! When women use the word break it’s probably an attention seeker but when a man uses it, It is definitely a deal breaker. That is usually what we say when we do not want her to know we are actually breaking up. It is tactical manipulation. I need a break up sounds harsh and makes them the enemy so men would rather say “ I need a break to clear my head/ put things in order” Dear ladies, Don’t wait up. Note to take home: When a man truly loves you, he doesn’t chase you in his moments of trials, that is when he needs you the most. I am a man. I know this is hard pill to swallow especially for ladies who are blinded in love. No one wants to accept the truth because of the pain that follows so you’d rather bind yourself with false hopes that he’s going to have a rethink. Well, May you are right but I don’t think you should stick around to find out. Men don’t chase women who give them inner peace away so if truly that man loves you he will never shut you out especially when you have done nothing wrong to him. I am sorry you have to go through this tactical manipulation from men but I need you to have this information. Many of you have not been able to move on because you are waiting for a break to get over. Please do not wait up!
Category:	Advice	Dec 28, 02:31 AM

Title:	What men actually want(ladies! A must read)
Content:	Dear ladies I know many attimes after after a broken relationship or in a relationship clouded by misunderstanding and hurdles, you often ask yourselves "What do men actually want?" Well I'm gonna answer that question today. The truth is, there's no such thing as a "general want" for men, every man has his own desire. What men want is a fallacy and a scam to actually trick you into being what they want you to be. The truth is, every man has his needs. And want every man wants differs according to individual. Some men want ladies with big blossoms, with a heavy behind and some want slim ladies, some fair, some dark. Intellectually sound or even intellectually backward ladies. So stop killin.g yourselves over the whole idea of "what men want" after breakfast. There's no such thing like that. The sooner you learn this, the less hurt you'll be.
Category:	Relationship	Dec 22, 09:23 AM