Title:	Dalilan da ke sa mace Tara Samari
Content:	Akwai dalilin da yasa mata suke tara samari, sai dai kowa da nata dalilin kamar haka: 1. Wata tana tara samari ne saboda tana tsoron ta so mutum daya daga karshe kuma rabuwa ya shigo tsakanin su, ko dai naturally ko kuma constructive (yaudara). Yawancin mata a wannan bangaren suna fama da fear of rejection 3. Akwai set din matan da suke tara samari saboda koda sun tashi aure suna da choices, sai sun zauna sun tantance kafin su samu daya daga ciki su ce ya turo. Matan dake wannan category din sun kasu biyu. Na farko sunayin hakane for their emotional safety, a duk lokacin da suka tashi aure ba zasu rasa wanda zai fito ba (wanda kuma akan rasa samarin duka a wani lokacin ko kuma rashin dacen miji), na biyun kuwa are so perfectionist, suna comparing maza ne don su samu most perfect one da ra'ayin su sai su watsar da sauran, mostly they are making their choices based on chemistry not compatibility. 5. Emotional Queens sune a wannan bangaren, a koda yaushe suna son a basu attention, so duk namijin daya kasance yana kokarin basu attention zasu iya soyayyah dashi koda tana da wasu kafin sa, hakan na faruwa ne idan initial saurayin bai bata enough attention.... Irin wannan matan suna rasa kansu saboda babu komai a kwakwalwar su sai tunanin romance and affection, yanda kasan haihuwar India yayen Korea haka suke. Maza sunfi samun saukin playing irin wannan matan saboda as far as kasan hannun ka, zaka iya tafiyar da irin wannan mace dai-dai da ra'ayin ka especially idan bata da lura, saboda blind folded love suke yi. Irin wannan matan suna experiencing severe heartbreak kuma gashi sun nace sai sun tara maza. 6. Akwai gold diggers, su basu da sana'a sai tara maza don wani ra'ayi nasu wanda duka bai wuce na abin duniya ba. Suna aje mai kai su kasuwa da anguwa saboda yana da mota, akwai mai sa masu data da airtime, akwai mai masu anko da sauransu dai, suna ware mutum daya wanda suke so, ba zasu taba rokon sa ba, shine priority a ran su. Yawancin mata a wannan bangaren saurayi na masu maganar aure zasu watsar dashi, sai dai wannan priority din, sannan they can only be available for you when they gained something from you. Misali, she can only call you if you recharge her phone, ko kuma ba zata taba chatting da kai ba har sai ka sa mata data, kuma yawancin interaction dasu cikin complaint suke... Ita bata da kaza, ita bata san ya zatayi ba tana so tayi kaza ammah ba dama, tasan sigar tatsan mutum kala-kala. Irin wannan matan suna yawan haduwa da yan iska, saboda akwai set din maza da yawa wanda basa kashe ma mace kudi a banza. Wasu matan suna tsallake tarkon maza, wasu kuma dole kasuwancin trade by barter ya hau kan su. 7. Akwai kuma wacce take tara maza saboda tana jindadin entertaining din su. So she's there for entertainment, a anguwa ne ko a social media bata da sana'a sai hira da maza, kowa ya santa kuma gashi abin ya zamar mata kaman addiction. Mace irin wannan bata iya samun emotional satisfaction da namiji daya 8. Akwai kuma mai tausayi... Irin wannan macen tana ganin bai kamata tayi rejecting wanda yace yana sonta kai tsaye ba, dalilin haka yasa take tara maza duk da bai zama dole ya kasance tana soyayyah dasu ba... Hakan yana da illa saboda kowa zai rika ganin kaman yana da wata matsayi ne a rayuwar ta, kuma she'll be feeling guilt idan tace bata son mutum ko tayi rejecting mutum. Besides, a gaskiya tara samari abune mai fadin gaske kuma ko wacce da nata dalilin hakan, sai dai bashi da wata fa'ida kwata-kwata. I'll make a post on it side effects da kuma dalilin da yasa gara ma kada mace tayi hakan, akwai matakin da zata dauka instead for her own good, but nasan wasu zasu ce ai maza nayi, I'll post about them as well.
Category:	Relationship	Apr 14, 07:48 AM

Title:	Every relationship issue can be fixed
Content:	I can see that nowadays relationships are so fragile and many people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to a relationship (either dating or marital), some of these unrealistic expectations include: 1. Believing that your partner will change without actually addressing the issue 2. Having thought that you should always feel the spark, deeply in love, or passionate 3. Believing that you should know what each other is thinking or feeling without asking 4. Thinking that you should always agree and never have conflicts 5. Believing that the relationship will grow on its own without actual mutual investment and effort 6. Believing that you should be part of every aspect of their lives or there should be no privacy 7. Believing that they should 'complete you' 8. Thinking every issue in the relationship is about them not you. And many more..... Such kind of unrealistic expectations tends to sabotage many relationships and create stress and resentfulness. A healthy relationship is a kind of relationship that let go of grudges and doesn't let any conflicts go unresolved, mistakes that many people used to made right from early stages of dating is avoiding conflicts resolution, many marital relationships begin with issues right from the dating phase which can't be or hard to be fixed in the long run. Avoiding communication and not trying to fix an issue will not let that issue fade, it will be there and even become bigger which will destroy the relationship entirely. If you're facing any issue with your partner, either by their behaviour, how they treat you, or any other issue, don't suppress it or lower your standards just to keep them, if you failed to stand up for yourself more especially at dating phase your partner will always keep treating you the way you showed up to them, you shouldn't be a passive, aggressive or passive-aggressive person, these kinds of behaviours will only make your relationship unhealthy and resentful, but rather, learn to be assertive person and easygoing. Finally, not every relationship is worth keeping and that's hard to believe, not every relationship is certain. Knowing when to leave a relationship that's draining your energy, and that's not serving you isn't an easy task, many of us have been suffering from low self-esteem and this let us put our partners on the pedestal and started to project a lot of fantasies of how this person could be, some have attachment issues that's why many people out there are accepting less than what they want in a relationship and keep convincing themselves that they're fine while they're not. Investment in a relationship should be a two-way stream, if you found yourself in a relationship where it feels like you're always giving then that could be unrequited love and it's pointless to keep trying in it. However, Istikhara will save you from wasting your time and energy on the wrong person, always ask Allah to guide you I guarantee you that you'll never regret that. Growth mindset is also very important to developed, just because your relationship with someone failed doesn't mean it's the end of the world, you'll feel the pain but it won't last forever and you'll have great opportunities in the future, don't rush the process and don't let social media and stereotype deceive you
Category:	Relationship	Jul 24, 01:06 PM

Title:	Men at 18 to 22 in relationship
Content:	What's your view on this matter? It seems like most of men dating at the age of 18 to 22 are always left shattered, and it's obvious that 90% of the girls they've been dating will finally get married to someone else, but it really hurts when someone loose the one he have been dating since when he was 18-22 after many years. What's your advice to young men within 18-22 in relationship?
Category:	Advice	Dec 5, 03:54 AM

Title:	Spoil your wife!
Content:	Spoil Your Wife, She Is Totally Yours! Dear Married Brothers in Islam, there is no happiness in this world than being Married. Always say Alhamdulillah for such a darling Wife *ALLAH* SWT has blessed you with. Appreciate your woman's effort. Thank her for completing half your deen. Thank her for making you her Husband Thank her for making you the King of her empire. Tell her you love her. Tell her you have many responsibilities towards her Tell her she is your Queen She deserves your prayers. So, pray for her. She needs your love, support and care. She needs your companionship. She needs your warm hug and trust. Don’t forget to wake her up for prayers. Don’t forget to pay for all her expenses and cook her favourite dishes once in a while. Assist her in household chores too. Don’t forget to dress her up as you used to when you were newly married. Don’t forget to be good to her as ordained by the Sunnah of our Noble Prophet Muhammad (SAW). And don’t forget that she is a human being who is bound to make mistakes. So forgive her unconditionally and wholeheartedly. Be mindful there Is No Perfect Marriage! May Allah (SWT) bless all our marriages and make it easier for those searching for soul mates. Aameen
Category:	Advice	Nov 11, 12:30 PM