I'm in my early 20s but I'm into older girls, I'm so confused about this because I don't see any possibility of having any of them neither in relationship nor being a spouse to any of them. I tried as much as I can to stop thinking this way but I've found it so difficult, I prayed to stop crushing on any older woman or my age mates but nothing has changed. As I keep being in touch with most of them, I realized that majority of Arewa girls have one perspections, they believed that an older men are more responsible and caring than the younger ones and majority of them make it obvious to me that they can't accept any younger man or their age mates expect one who's older than them with the minimum of 5 years. I believe men are always men irrespective of their ages, but having a one with less anger issues, who can understand you and treat you right is a blessing and priceless not number of age. Please advise me on how to stop thinking this way, it's killing me deeply since I have no hope on my desires ?